Blamestorming: Why Conversations Go Wrong and How to Fix Them, was published by Watkins in September 2014.
The book seeks to answer why disagreements often escalate into rows and how our wires can get crossed when talking to a stressed partner, difficult teenager, over-worked colleagues or demanding boss.
Using real-life examples, Blamestorming is intended to be a uniquely accessible guide to expert conversation that puts superb communication skills at your fingertips.
Here’s what people say about Blamestorming:
‘Powerful conversations are essential to world class performance. Blamestorming will show you how.’
Amy Williams – Olympic gold medallist
‘Blamestorming offers a truly fascinating insight into the complex world of conversation.’
Martin Davies – bestselling author of The Conjuror’s Bird
‘Rob understands the dynamics of conversation inside out. He has vast experience and mastery in this field. The world will be better for him sharing it.’
Hugh Brasher – Race Director, The London Marathon
‘Blamestorming reveals how the way we think influences the way we communicate. This is cutting-edge psychology packaged in the most accessible way. Anyone who is serious about improving their communication skills will find it practical and relevant.’
Rob Archer – The Career Psychologist
‘Effective conversations are important to me in managing and leading at work, and in enjoying my family and friends. Blamestorming is a highly stimulating and valuable guide through the art of how to converse successfully.’
Matt Stringer – Commercial Director, Mothercare
‘Rob’s book will teach you how to hear what’s really being said and say what you really mean to say. It will help you to increase your self-confidence and to put your relationships on a firmer and more positive footing. Rob’s guidance would be important in any day and age, but in today’s world we need his book more than ever. As texts, emails and other forms of ‘silent’ communication crowd out the opportunity to practice the art of face-to-face conversation, we need the help of a skilled communicator more than ever. I recommend Rob’s book to anyone who wants to communicate more effectively.’
Linda Blair – clinical psychologist, columnist, broadcaster and author of The Happy Child (2008), Straight Talking (2009), Birth Order (2011) and The Key to Calm (2014)
‘As the CEO of 55,000 staff, I have valued Rob’s partnership at defining moments in our history. He knows how to have meaningful conversations that move life instead of talking about life. In Blamestoming, he will show you how.’
Julian Roberts – CEO of Old Mutual Group
‘In professional sport, as in every domain of life, conversation plays a crucial role in performance. In this book, Rob demonstrates simple, practical ways to revolutionize your conversational life.’
Matt Perry – England’s most-capped rugby full-back
‘Rob knows how to have meaningful conversations that allow people to be honest with themselves and authentic with others. I can’t think of a better person to write a book like this!’
Paula Vennells – Managing Director, Post Office Ltd
‘In Blamestorming, Rob shares a wealth of experience and makes the art, science and skills of conversation accessible to everyone. Rob can be for conversation what Martin Lewis is for saving money – the UK’s expert. Nobody occupies this space in the public consciousness today.’
Gordon Gourlay – MD of First Rate Exchange Services (the UK’s leading provider of foreign exchange)